I heard this great picky eating tip that totally changes the game.
Before I share it, let’s back up a bit.
Phrases that Can Reinforce Picky Eating
Picky eating can have many causes – a health condition like autism or reflux, belly issues like constipation, and/or sensory issues like over or under responding.
Regardless of the eating issues, no one – not a picky eater or an adventurous one or anyone in between – likes being told what to eat or what they like.
But so often that’s what happens.
Kids are often told:
“You don’t like this” or “You have to eat this.”
No one likes to hear that.
Plus, it doesn’t leave any room for discovery or learning.
The Division of Responsibility for Feeding
I suggest using the Division of Responsibility for feeding with families in my coaching programs. In this method, when it comes to meals and snacks, parents or caregivers decide what is being served, where it is being served, and when it is being served. It is the child’s responsibility to deice if they’re eating and how much they want to eat.
While I believe this is an important part of raising a child who likes to eat, I still believe there is some wiggle room.
So, are you ready to hear this great tip?
A Genius Picky Eating Tip that Takes Zero Time
The next time your child refuses to eat a meal or expresses disgust at a food you’ve served instead of reinforcing that they don’t like it, begging them to eat it, or feeling stressed, sad, or frustrated, try asking them a simple question.
“What would make it better for you?”
Why This Works
Kids feel empowered when asked this question. Sometimes that sense of control turns things around.
This question also encourages kids to really think about how they’re feeling and why.
Their answers might surprise you. They also might help you make adjustments in the future to better support your picky eater.
Sometimes the food just needs to be moved to a different area on the plate. Sometimes a bit of a favorite dip would make it more palatable. Maybe it needs to be cut smaller. Or eaten with a spoon.
The thing is, there are so many factors contributing to what your child eats and doesn’t eat. Kids so rarely get a chance to advocate for what they want. This gives them a chance to express their needs while also teaching coping strategies so they can learn how to feel more comfortable with uncomfortable foods in the future.
Would you try this tip at home?
Recap
Your language can have a big impact on what and how your child eats. Try to avoid assuming what your child will and won’t eat and why. The one simple question above can transform your picky eater and help them feel more engaged and empowered at mealtimes.
Homework
Try asking this question the next time your picky eater doesn’t seem interested in eating.
Looking for more helpful phrases to help your picky eater try new foods?
Check out: What to Say to End Picky Eating
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